No more Drama!

I knew I always preferred a life of solitude to one with so many friends. Well, if you are like me, you realize that life throws a wakeup call and you are put in a place where you need that close confidante! Well the road is rosy the first couple months. It always is with every relationship. You seem to have so much in common, how you reason, your preferences, even the kind of guys you like or you may have married.

But like every relationship, it hits a plateau. It’s not like a job that you can ditch and move on to the next one that appeals to your creative side that’s dying for a challenge. You need to work at it; all the disputes, the unmanaged expectations and being able to articulate your emotions and expectations without hurting the other person.

I have always been one on the communication high horse. Always spewing advice to others about the need to speak up and out, calmly to friends and family about what you feel inside. And knowing however uncomfortable it is you still need to do it. It’s beneficial to both parties. Easier said than done!

Let’s say the good Lord; yes Jesus is a darling, has shown me the importance of it in my relationships. But it has been hard. But I am slowly getting the hang of it. It really is such a cool feeling! No weight on my shoulder wondering ‘what if?’ Just knowing that what I said is just that; no cryptic meaning to be deciphered. It’s just as I said it! And that me fair ladies; is a revelation!

It hit me just this week that working at a friendship is similar to any other relationship in that respect. You manage your expectations, no scripts, no baggage and no bitterness. Just bliss! Like Jesus planned it to be! Mary J. said it best; No more drama! So have a great relationship week! Aaahh!